First off, you already are successful! I know we are still in the thick of layoffs - but I love the quote “rejection is protection”. It has always been a great way to remind myself that moments that bruise the ego are usually things I look back on with gratitude - though it usually takes a few months (ok, sometimes years!) to have that hindsight. So right now… I’m guessing your ego is likely a big black and blue bruise if you have been laid off recently. And I want to help with that.
Emotionally, you might be feeling scared. You’ll be thinking things like, “Will I be able to find another job soon? A recession is looming after all.” A level below that, you likely are feeling unsafe. Your financial security has been threatened. And money is required for your survival.
I’m highlighting these things not to scare you further - but because acknowledging what is going on inside your beautiful brain is a key part of moving forward. Based on my experience, setting yourself up for success starts with getting into a headspace where you feel safer again. Because if you don’t feel safe, you cant perform at your best — literally!
The tl;dr on the neuroscience behind this is that only once you feel safe (aka your nervous system is regulated) does the cortex part of your brain become accessible. And your cortex is the part of your brain that helps you do the networking & interviewing you need to be at the top of your game on!
So how do you go about regulating your nervous system? The recommendations are annoyingly simple, but thoroughly researched. Things I swear by and are proven to work are:
Once you feel your body relax - like you can breathe a teeny bit easier - you’ll want to get into the practicalities of feeling successful again. I find a 2 pronged approach had suited my clients best in this respect:
While this may feel weird, scary or backwards to not be applying for jobs 24/7 when you're unemployed, it has tended to provide the job opportunity my clients really wanted to simply land. The slog (& continuous rejection) that comes with applying to as many jobs as possible is what tends to drain your energy and leave you feeling demoralized. Of course, still plug away at some job applications in the meantime … but if you believe a job can find you through a more relationship based (& energizing!) route … who knows, it just might.
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